This came to us through our Letters from Lazy Learners form. The writer shared an account of what it felt like to move from one painful ward experience straight into another. She describes years of gossip, exclusion, and spiritual harm. She tried to serve. She tried to connect. She tried to stay. But every attempt left her feeling smaller, ignored, and blamed for her own mistreatment. Letter from a Sister Who Tried to Be Enough I wrote this while I was still active in the church. This is long, but just one tiny drop in the bucket. Imagine this… For 5 years you live in a ward where you are repeatedly gossiped about, falsely accused, betrayed, and belittled by your bishop and RS (Relief Society) presidents and develop PTSD from their spiritual and emotional abuse. You keep going thinking that it has to get better, and after being yelled at for an hour in your house by your RS president who tells you that you are using your calling to seek revenge (...
In 1980, Ezra Taft Benson delivered a devotional at BYU that outlined what he called the “ 14 Fundamentals in Following the Prophet. ” The message spread widely within the church and shaped how Latter day Saints came to understand prophetic authority. Even if someone never read the original talk, the ideas appeared in lessons, leadership trainings, and casual conversation across generations. The fundamentals build a system that places the prophet above every competing source of guidance. When read together, they create a model of obedience and hierarchy that rests on the idea that one man speaks for God. 1. The prophet is the only person who speaks for God in everything This first principle elevates one individual above all other voices. If only one man speaks for God, then any disagreement with him becomes a spiritual issue rather than a difference in interpretation. The structure relies on absolute trust in a single leader. 2. The living prophet is more important than script...